Originally Posted by
whatnow2 
Well, I make kids dinner, and an hour later AH wakes up and I tell him, do you realize you left the stove on? He goes completely nuts and starts smashing things, rips the refrigerator door off the hinges, kicks in the dishwasher. The kids run upstairs, I try to call 911 and he rips the phone out of the wall. I find my cell phone and call. Police come and say yes he's drunk, but unless he hurts me he can smash anything in the house he wants, even the phone. They tell me I can leave.
Something smells rotten here. I have been specifically told, in the past, that destroying property is considered an act of domestic violence-
intimidation. I would call a local domestic violence hotline, see if you can get outside assistance. It is possible that the police you were dealing with simply don't know the law, and the folks at the dv center do, and have contacts with the justice system, you should not have to deal with this in your house. My thoughts go out to you.