Originally Posted by
thatoneguy 
My boundary, if you will, has been that agf needs to accept she's an alcoholic fully (she has said as much many times, but as stated also denies it at times) and take steps to deal with it for us to really have a future.
Boundaries are not supposed to be an attempt to change to behavior of another. Boundaries are meant to spell out behavior we find unacceptable and what we are going to do if those boundaries are violated.
For instance, I have a boundary that I cannot tolerate drunkeness and if I am inthe presence of people who choose to be drunk, I leave.
You cannot force your gf to change. Only she can decide she is ready and wanting to change.