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Hello. I found this forum while searching the web for help. I am a 35 year old daughter of an alcoholic mother. My mother has been an alcoholic for at least 15 years. About 10 years ago we did an intervention on her and talked her into checking into a recovery hospital but once she got home within several weeks she was drinking again. About 8 months ago she got really depressed and wasn't eating, she would only sit in the house and drink so we finally talked her into to checking herself in again but when they showed me her admissions paperwork she said she was only there for depression which they knew right away from her DT's that she was an alcoholic so they tried to treat her for that too. Her doctors told us that she has the worst case of denial they have ever seen. She stayed in the hospital for 3 weeks. When we went to visit her there she was like a totally different person. She was the mother I love and miss. Unfortunately the day she got home she went right out to the liquor store and got several bottles of wine. Me, my dad & my brother are having a really hard time. We are scared to death that she is slowly killing herself. We have come to the conclusion that we can not make her get help because we have done that twice and it has done no good. I truly believe that she has to make the decision to get help herself or it won't work. My dad is miserable living with her. He stays because he loves her and because he is scared if he leaves and she does pass out and choke or if she falls and needs help then there will be no one there to call for help. I am angry with her for being so selfish and I am sad because I feel like I do not have a mother to do mother daughter things with like all my friends. My brother just had his first baby and I thought having a granddaughter might help to motivate her but it really hasn't. I just don't know what to do. Any advice on how to treat her or handle this situation. This past time she was in the hospital we all met with her and her doctor and told her how her drinking made us feel and she got really upset and said she didn't realize it but of course in the long run all the pain we went thru to tell her just didn't matter she still turned back to her best friend, booze. Any help would be appreciated. My mother is a wonderful person with the kindest heart of anyone I know but she has a problem that is controlling her life and in turn ours.
Thank you for listening!