Katie44:
So, have you bottomed out yet? Your son steals from you and your husband repetitively which is so huge, and you wonder if you should call your son on the phone?
Please get your priorities in a row here. Because you did not press charges when your husband wanted to, you have essentially bought drugs for your son for the past year. And because you have bought drugs for your son for the past year, you have put your son in a very dangerous place. Think of yourself as the "soft" drug dealer.....
If you have bottomed out, get to Alanon/Naranon meetings. If you haven't bottomed out and still think you've got some tricks up your sleeve to convince your son to quit, i've got no advice for you.
Soj