" No matter how much I learn about detachment the pain creeps up. Yes, I can move on with my life to a certain extent, but in some areas I'm stuck ."
Welcome. I understand what you speak of, especially as it relates to our grown children.
For me as a mother, it is impossible to completely detach. My only child is an addict.
Having a fellowship and friends in the same situation is incredibly beneficial. I hope you stick around for all that is offered here and all that you have to share with us.