Hey (((((tiff))))
I have a niece named Tiffany. Anyway you cannot help him stay clean. He has to do it.
I hear something in your post that tells me you might be in for more of the same. How long have you been clean? Have you had any kind of therapy yourself or Alanon meeting? Your addiction is to him. Controlling him is your high. You have arranged your whole life around him and his addiction. I hate to sound so straight forward with you. You don't know me I know this. But, You have 10 days to start changing your behaviors...I hope you can find out what I mean.