I had to look at it this way, by 'helping' my brother financially I was helping him buy his Vodka, which I've no doubt will kill him eventually. So I had to keep my mind fixed on the fact that by giving him money, or loans I was helping him kill himself. I don't give him a penny anymore, he still has his house and car and he still finds money for his vodka. He doesn't need my help, but if I gave it he'd take and take and I'd be the one left with nothing to feed my kids with.