mtnmagic,
what a wonderful and loving mom - as I see it, when I allow my A daughter and my other daughters who are not A's - to deal with their own issues - I am allowing them the ability to develop their own strengths, responsibilities which helps their self-worth and self-esteem. For me, that is one of the best gifts a parent can give a child.
It doesn't make it easy on the Mom, but as I've said before dealing with this disease "ain't for sissys" it takes some BIG GIRL PANTIES and if mine get any bigger they will need their own ZIP CODE. But the love and support that we have with our friends here helps us know that we are following the correct path for us and for our loved ones.
Congrats on your sobriety - I think that is so wonderful and another special gift that you are giving to yourself, your son and to us - Thank you.
Wishing you Serenity & Joy,
Rita