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Originally Posted by
karisma 
I guess my question is can he change?? He says this is who he is and he isn't going to change.
You've got your answer. He says he isn't gong to change. Believe him.
So what about you? Do you want to change?
Originally Posted by
karisma I have thought about going to Al non meetings, but there are non in my town, I would have to drive to another town to go, and they are at my kids' bed times. I treasure our nights together reading books.
I suspect missing a few nights reading so you can go to AlAnon would be worth it. Think of it as investing in your childrens' future.