I need to learn how...
Hi again, and thank you both for your comments. I forgot to mention that my son lives away in another state, so we only see him now and then. As far as the book Boundaries, I do have that one, and could easily revisit it to use as a means of reeducating myself also having the workbook that goes along with this. Also, in the past and many years ago, I did try Al-Anon in person, but am looking for an online sight to go to which does exist. So, thank you for caring enough to mention that!
I want to apologize as far as not sharing what I should share to better clarify my current situation. My son is a 36 year old adult, so I forgot to make that clear and as I stated above, we only see him now and then and that alone is not very often. He's lives about 6 hours away from home.
I just want to change the way things have been as far as myself goes. I have not realized how freeing it can be to have online support until just last month when I found this site, and one other besides. I thank you so much for reaching out and will "try" if at all possible to keep you updated. I did handwrite a letter to him just last month, to let him know that while he is out of sight, he is never out of mind and that we love him very much. Thank you again for reaching out in my current distress, and I cannot imagine "not" caring as his mom.
MssDgtr7 :ghug