Martha Beck, who writes great books (like The Joy Diet) and articles like these: Martha Beck: Yes, It Was Awful...Now Please Shut Up ...
There's a fine line between being able to be honest & open about your history, and learning when to say, "Okay, enough, I'm ready to change things now."
GiveLove and all --
You are always such wonderful guides. You are so right about how difficult it is to not cross that line from grief to self-pity! I just read the Beck article, and I love the final sentence - the Ojibway saying:
Sometimes I go about pitying myself, and all the while I am being carried on great winds across the sky.
I think there's one more quote for my list of inspirations for those times I've lost sight of what's important or the direction in which I need to be putting my energy.
Thanks -
UM