Originally Posted by
bewildered2 
without his alcoholism i don't think i would be nearly as strong and headstrong as I am...and without his alcoholism i don't think i would be nearly as self reliant as I am now...it sucks feeling like you can't depend on your partner in life and knowing deep down that you REALLY can't depend on him...but as weird as it sounds i wouldn't be the person I am (that i really like by the way) without HIS alcoholism...
Excellent that you can see that you have benefitted in an odd way from all the madness! So many take a very long time to understand that we do get life lessons from all this that we may not have gottent otherwise. I know the same is true for me.