There's a fine line between being able to be honest & open about your history, and learning when to say, "Okay, enough, I'm ready to change things now." Tough stuff, that.
So true. Oh so very true. One step at a time eh? Just being able to be honest (especially when most of us had been told that it was a Big Secret and not to talk about it) with ourselves is a huge step. Many (if not most) never get there.
Then being ready to change? Yup, that's a whopper.