I am seeing a counselor and she is helping... but she can't live on my shoulder. This forum is such a great help. Thank you for the quick response. We have been to marriage counseling and frankly the counselor said that until my AH was willing to deal with his issues there was no point in us continuing. How's that for 'ya... we got thrown out of marriage counseling! Of course, he has not done anything to deal with the problem, just says he can handle it and has stopped. Oh well, one day at a time, right? Thank you again.