Hi Warrior,
Welcome!
My ex never hit me, but he would "throw tantrums" like throw a roll of paper towels across the room, or push the rolling coffe table around really hard if he was mad. I paid attention to that and took it as a sign of what could be.
I read "Getting Them Sober" book by Toby Rice Drews and found it very helpful!
Keep posting. There's a lot to learn here!