I am aware of the anger thing - thus the evacuation plan.
I should also explain his cycle. Good mood > something bad happens > bad mood/tantrum > drinking/very quite > happy and loaded > falls alseep I know he's got anger problems too, which were improving until the past year.
I'm ignoring his phone. His phone, his problem.
He was never drunk while home alone with the baby, but I could see it easily getting that way. I more begged him not to do it. This was back before I realized he probably has a problem. I know... I'm excusing him. I feel like I've been such a b***h of a wife, so I try to be nice and not make demands... which is exactly what this relationship DOESN'T need. Ugh... I'll learn.
This is really going to suck... the ONE thing he did on a consistent basis that made me happy was take care of the baby. I'm going to be left with someone that does absolutely nothing for me.