Barbara52

It takes a while to gain skills with setting boundaries. Be patient with yourself. Remember that setting a boundary is for you, not him, and not a means of controlling his behavior. Its setting what you want and do not want your life and what you will do if what you want doesn't take place.

"If you continue to drink while home alone with the baby, I will confront your behavior and tell you how it scares me and hurts our relationship." [/quote]

I might change this to something like this:

I cannot tolerate someone drinking while caring for my child. If you choose to drink while taking care her, I will arrange for daycare outside the home.

One other thing. He broke his phone. He is responsible for replacing or getting it fixed. Not you. And beware that violence can easily morph from inanimate objects to people.