thank you both for this thread.
it's so hard what you are dealing with. no one does it perfectly -- especially detachment! especially when the A is trying so hard to pick that fight! and yes, i get hooked and my behavior is so gross -- and i haven't even been drinking.
step one has saved me in every possible circumstance over and over and over and over and over...
i know how difficult it is to find a place that will take a dog or two.
hang in there. when i do my footwork and turn over the results, the universe steps up and gets me what i need.
okay, maybe not what i WANT, but what i need!