Concerned, I'm really sorry you and your parents are so frantic, but what everyone here has said is so true. Your sister knows you all love her, but it isn't about love. She doesn't need to know why you didn't bail her out...she knows...she knows that she can no longer manipulate you so she has found others who can "help" her. If she wanted true help, she would still be there and waiting to get into rehab. Unfortunately this isn't her time. Maybe tomorrow will be, all we can do is pray. And I do agree with Miss Pink that knowing who bailed her out serves no useful purpose other than to suck you further into the drama and madness of active addiction. Prayers of comfort for you and your family and prayers that HP will walk with your sister and give her what she needs to want to choose recovery.