She knows that you love her and she has been taking advantage of that love for a long, long time. There is no need to explain anything to her. She stopped calling her family because you would not give her the only thing that she wanted-a bail out so she could go back and use again. Do not feel guilty about what you and your family did. You did the thing that was the most loving. Addiction sure does screw things up, doesn't it? I agree with Pink, let her go. She is heading toward her own destiny. Get out of the way or as we say here, let go or be dragged. Hugs, Marle