SAY IT LOUD BROTHER!!!
How Bill W. refuted that 'A.A. is a SELFISH program.'
Another correspondent complained directly that he had been "disturbed to hear some A.A. speakers say, 'A.A. is a selfish program.'" The co-founder's response was eventually published in "The A.A. Way of Life":
I can see why you are disturbed.... The word "selfish" ordinarily implies that one is acquisitive, demanding, and thoughtless of the welfare of others. Of course, the A.A. way of life does not at all imply such undesirable traits.
What do these speakers mean? Well, any theologian will tell you that the salvation of his own soul is the highest vocation that a man can have. Without salvation - however we may define this - he will have little or nothing. For us in A.A. there is even more urgency.
If we cannot or will not achieve sobriety, then we become truly lost, right in the here and now. We are of no value to anyone, including ourselves, until we find salvation from alcohol. Therefore, our own recovery and spiritual growth have to come first - a right and necessary kind of self-concern.
From "Not-God, A History of Alcoholics Anonymous", pp. 243-244, by Ernest Kurtz.
A tabulation of words in the Big Book which contain the root "self".
Word Group Self-Word Count
Character Virtues
self-control 1
self-discipline 2
self-respect 1
self-searching 1
unselfish 1
unselfishness 2
Total 8
Character Defects
self-centered 3
self-centeredness 3
self-deception 1
self-destruction 1
self-esteem 7 *
selfish 11
selfishly 1
selfishness 3
self-justification 1
self-pity 11
self-pitying 1
self-seeker 1
self-seeking 4
self-supporting 1
Total 49
Other
self-appraisal 3
self-confidence 2
self-confident 1
self-conscious 1
self-consciousness 1
self-evident 1
self-imposed 1
self-propulsion 1
self-reliance 3
self-revealing 1
self-sacrifice 2
self-sacrificing 2
self-sufficiency 1
self-will 5
Total 25
Prepositions
herself 2
himself 75
itself 7
myself 22
ourselves 1
self 5
thyself 2
yourself 25
Total 139
Overall Total 221
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A.A. is NOT a selfish program
Tom