Hey Dude!
I also had to go through that initial period of people bringing up bad memories and making thoughtless remarks. What helped me was realizing that in many instances, I was just the gossip of the day, people getting their kicks at my expense. They have tired of it and moved on.
If it was a friend or loved one bringing up things where I had hurt them, all I could do was let them speak, listen to them, and say that I am sorry through my words & actions (staying sober, being kind & good to them).
You are doing great! Keep going, it gets much much better.