Originally Posted by
mjpaao 
Then he gets into the "poor me" head games...how the breakup was all my fault, .
His choices determined the break up.
That he does not get it, is his problem. That he may never get it, is his problem too.
Please take this monkey off your back and put it where it belongs- with him and let it go. Letting go of the monkey is your source of power.
( I am so not a codie when it comes to men and yet stuggle with the same issues with my AD- no different than you)