Originally Posted by LucyA

Theres no such thing as a dumb question! I think basically to enforce your boundaries means to stick by whatever boundaries you've made. Do as you say you will. Otherwise the boundaries are worthless to both of you. If you say you will do x if y happens then do it, and stick to it however difficult it might seem at the time.

I'm sure there'll be others, with more experience than I have, along soon, I'm still learning, but I've learned that even when us newbies think we're asking dumb questions they arent always that dumb, and people here are really patient and understanding.