Thank you all so much. My husband said the same thing....it's the disease talking not our son. I can intellectualize that but handling the emotional side of it is difficult.
I have not called him. I have not responded to his text messages. I don't really even have the "urge" to do so. Maybe I'm further in my recovery than I give myself credit for. In the past, the codie-me would have called and cried and pleaded with him. Now I just don't feel like I have to put myself in that position.
Peaceteach - that sounds like something my A son would do too. So selfish. They really know how to wreck a good moment and nice warm fuzzy feeling, don't they.
Thanks again to all of you for your kind words of support. I hope you all know how very helpful and healing those words are. You are all very much appreciated. Thank you.