Originally Posted by
SHIVAYA 
He has lots of problems with me. Besides not being in love, he's also not attracted to me, feels I am controlling, not nurturing and I'm not sure what else.
He only gave you the short list I see.
I gave my wife my list and did so in a controled calm manner.
She sat there and listened to my every word and then in fairness(in my twisted thoughts), I then asked her...
Now it is your turn ...what do I need to work on and improve about me?
Her reply had me with my head spinning and left me without words.
I am sure she was holding back the pain and heartache I just dished out to her but she held her recovery tools in perfect manner and just said...
"At this moment...I can't think of one thing."
She Turn the other cheek and it hit me like a ton of bricks.
We separated. I found recovery. We got back together and celebrated our 25th...together.
The past 7 years have been the best seven years of our whole marriage.
Hold your boundaries and pray.
I pray that he finds his answers and recovery and that you both can have the same joy I have found.
Give yourself a hug. You deserve it.