melbar4

for all of the responses. I do have another question. I know you don't know my AH and can't read his mind but I am curious to know if they are only words. Does he really mean it when he tells me to let it go. 16 years of marriage, at the present time - things were okay here, not wonderful but my god they have been so much worse. I was trying to get off his back, give him room, he was coming and going as he wanted. Two nights before he left me, he went out and didn't get in till 4 in the morning and passed out in the chair. I didn't get on him about this. When ever he wanted sex, I was willing if he was able. Why did he leave now? When he was here, he told me to never give up on him, made me promise to never ask him to leave and promised to never leave us. He said this a week before he left. Are they just words or am I doing him wrong by just letting him be. I so want to have hope for our family.

Thanks so much,
Melissa