He left us 10 ten days ago and he goes on to tell her that he had left me and my four children because he just couldn't live with me anymore, not in my prison.
I have to admit that I created a prison-like environment for my AB. At first I demanded a no-drinking environment in my home. And to enforce that policy, I policed his brief case, dresser drawers, coat pockets, closet, and more. When that didn't satisfy me, I tried to enforce a no-drinking rule outside my home as well. In short, I tried to police his life.
Perhaps your husband didn't just up and leave you and your children, perhaps he felt driven away. Alanon helped me realize that alcohol didn't destroy my relationship. My actions and choices did. It's not fair to place all the blame for a failed relationship on one party. It takes two to tango.
I'm sorry you're hurting.