i was really,really bad about getting hooked when it came from my addict son. what made it worse was the times he would say"i did not ask you to do that, or i did not ask you for that." he was right. i would do it on my on..how hooked or dumb is that? what i have realized since recovery it was not only him that could hook me. it was people in general. i do not get hooked by my son anymore but sometimes i will still get suck(ered) in by other people. i am working hard on that.thanks for the post ann, i do need to be reminded that i am not a sucker for other people. i have never been one to ask for anything & i can not understand how people can ask for the things they want, not necessaryly need.