((((((((Sick))))))))
I know this is driving you so
crazy. I have been that crazy woman who was constantly chasing, questioning, mistrusting, begging, pleading, threatening, ect. ect. ect.
There's so many of us that have gone through this with a child.
My son was 19 when I found out he was addicted to heroin. He was living with a gf at the time and everytime I saw him he looked worse and worse.
Finally, after threatening to kill someone, (he or gf) she told me to check his forearm.
Dear Lord, please don't let this be happening to my child.
It was, though. I spent about the next 5 years trying to save him.
I even sent him to jail. One because he stole from my home, and another
reason, to get him off the street and away from people he knew.
I have to tell you that the longer I did the things I mentioned above...
the worse off I got. I was depressed all the time. My sober daughter was suffering. My relationship with my husband was practically non-existant. My work suffered. I was becoming a stumbling, bumbling, feeble-minded woman with one goal. To make my son stop using drugs and be happy and sober forever. Amen!
Sad to say...it can't be done.
What can be done is that you can first admit you are powerless over your daughter and her choices. Just say this...
1. I didn't cause it
2. I can't control it
3. I can't cure it
What I do have control over is me and the way I handle myself.
You will start to feel better once you've admitted and truly believe this.
Keep coming back to sr for support, prayers, love, and feedback.
I could go on and on, but I have to go to work soon.
We'll talk again.
Hugs and prayers out to you and your daughter,
Linda