One of rhe rehabs my AH was in had family days once a week. We all sat together addicts and loved ones and talked. The therapist that sat in on our discussions said to the addicts "If you go back out there and relapse again please let your loved ones go" I always thought that was a awesome statement. At the time it frightened me I didn't want him to leave but as time went on and he did relapse I knew I couldn't go on his journey with him any longer. I needed to save myself and the children. It took another year for me to go. I was with him 24 years it was very hard. In the end you could say maybe he is trying to save you more heartache. I wanted a family my husband wanted to drink. God Bless.....