Welcome, Chloe, you've come to a good place where we do understand because we've been where you are.
Take a read around and you'll get a feel for how it is living with an addict, from many perspectives, and what we do to help ourselves find balance and good lives, regardless of how they are doing.
And don't worry, most of us have been codie detectives, I know I was, until I realized that it never changed one thing my addict son was doing but it sure kept my adrenaline flowing and was nothing but upsetting to me.
Those of us who have been around for a while, here and through meetings, have found a better way to live and you can too. There IS hope for each one of us and brighter days ahead for those new to all this.
Glad you joined us and am happy to have you walk with us on our journey of recovery. Make yourself comfortable, ask as many questions as you want, and just know that coming here was a big step in your journey of recovery too.
Hugs