Cail,
One of the first things I was told when I started my recovery journey was when my AD did hear it, it was not going to be from me.
That has been so true. I truly believe that we parents just can't get through to them. It has to be from someone else working a program or because of some devastating thing that happens to them, something that gets their attention.
I finally realized that I could talk and talk until I was blue in the face, but my daughter just wasn't going to "get it" from me.
So today I know the only thing I can do or be is a good example of what recovery looks like. I attend my Al Anon meetings and try to work my program everyday. I pray both my daughters, one addicted, one not, see something different in me, something they want.
Kasey will hear it when she's ready. (And you'll probably think to yourself, "I told you that 15,256 times. Why didn't you listen to me?"
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Hugs and prayers for both of you,
Hangin' In