The only reason I drank was no reason at all.
I am an alcoholic of the sort that only an entire psychic change, a spiritual experience if you will - will save me from death.
If I stay away from alcohol and am not involved in clearing up my past and enlarging my spiritual life, I am doomed to pick up again.
When I pick up again - there is no such thing as 'will power' to stop me.
I will take down everything worthwhile in life.
I am a sick person, who's illness is called alcoholism - it affects those around me like no other human illness....
If I go untreated, losing a relationship will be a drop in the bucket of destruction.
I have been where he is. I know what it is like. He may have no choice in the matter, it is not a problem of mental weakness nor outside circumstance (job, money etc cannot justify killing oneself).
I was offered a solution, and I took it because I had no choice.. The problem has been removed. No matter how bad work has been, how many bills I pile up, how much time I spend in traffic, how many friends pass away or how bad life gets...I am not afraid. The fear has been removed and I believe this can work for anyone who truly wants it. I am no longer a slave to alcohol - in fact, I haven't even had the thought of a drink (this from someone who could not go 24 hours without a drink for years), since I gave up doing things 'my way'. There are no triggers, I need no relapse prevention. I was aimed in a different direction and getting drunk has not been an option on this path. I am better for it. My girlfriend is better for it, my boss is better for it, my family is better for it, my friends are better for it...everyone has benefitted from this. Yeah, there are some things I have to do to maintain this, they are a pleasure to do today.
I had to want it for myself, doing it for someone else NEVER worked.
Never.
If he be truly alcoholic, I know a solution that works.
Right here in Los Angeles, and every other city in our country for that matter.