Sorry your brother is still making bad choices. I think it is great you are there for your mom. My son will have nothing to do w/ meeting, his sister, learning about addiction, etc. He says she is dead. I know how much you and your support mean to your mom! Bless you!!
this should be a stickey (from up earlier on the thread) I loved it!!!
Please tell your parents: (and yourself )
His behavior is NOT a reflection on them as parents
They are not responsible for his recovery, how he does at it, or whether he does well this time around.
They can't make him act "better"
And last but not least...they don't "have" to get updates.
I say this last one because I had to let the professionals do their job. I didn't talk much to my son's counselor when he was in rehab. Partly because I was exhausted with the worry, and partly because bad news would have sent me into a tailspin.
Deep down I felt "responsible" still.
He still may get it...give him time. And whether he does or doesn't, it will be his to own.