Hi lesa,
I am so very sorry this is happening to you. Please do whatever it takes to keep yourself safe. You are in a really tough situation, is there anyone who can help you through this? Your ah sounds like he is walking a very tight rope right now, and my guess is, it will only get worse. My ah has done incredibloe things over the years, things I don't wish on anyone. Try to semember the man you see before you is not your husband. That's a hard thing to get a grip on, but I see that more clearly every day.
Please post and let us know how you're doing, ok?? There are many people with greater wisdom than I to help you. ((((lesa)))