Hi Tammie,
That's a real good question. Sometimes I feel confident and grounded then other times I feel as insecure as I did when I was 13. What I do is rememeber that this moment of insecurity will pass. And it does. And ya know, I've been spending more time alone mediating, walking, stretching and I am really enjoying my own company. Surprise surprise!! I also have several friends who are ill and visiting them or calling them (stepping out of myself) always gives me confidence. They look truly happy to see me. I'm allowing myself to realize that these days. It feels good. Of course, there are those who aren't as nuts about me and I need to work on not having to please everyone....it's getting easier.
Another thing I do is lower my expectations. Sometimes I think I have incredibly high expectations for myself and yet am tolerant and loving with the rest of the world. Now why's that???
-know that I keep you in prayer
love,
Mamabear