Thanks everyone for the replies.
I've done some serious thinking about everything and realize that I haven't been the most active player in my own recovery lately, so it's not fair for me to wonder why nothing is changing...
I have an appointment with a local addiction counseling service that was recommended by my shrink, I'm hoping that finding something more structured to pair with AA will help me to start moving forward, even just baby steps. We will see what she has to say.
I know I still have more reflection and prayer that I need to do regarding my sponsor, and whether I'm conveniently looking for excuses as to why it won't work.
Thanks again.