Thanks Ann, you are spot on as usual.
The whole situation had turned quickly. Early last week he printed, filled out, sent and did follow up call on the application to the rehab. By the week's end when it was time to pick a date he bulked and said if moving out was the conseq. for not going he'd move out and be homeless. Addiction really is BAFFLING. Lessons noted (1) There is NO reasoning with an addict. (2) He needs more wreckage to make rehab an option
(3) I tried and failed once again (4) It is time for me to Stop (5) Time to turn it over, Let go and reestablish what boundaries and conseq. will be and when.