Labrador0620,
Well, obviously, there's a problem somewhere along the line.
I have been married for 38 years.
We frequently discuss our finances and where the money is going, communication IS part of a marriage.
What happens when you ask to see her checkbook, or saving withdrawls? It sure would give you a big clue.
Regardless of what the problem is, this doesn't found like a marriage built on honesty and trust and partnership.
(Just my thoughts....not meant to offend.)
Hugs to you...