Everybody is posting excellent advice. I know that I was at first in denial of the magnitude of the problem with AH's pain pills. Now that he is in recovery (2 months), he tells me stories about how really bad it was. He was so good at covering it up and lying that it would have been impossible for me to know about all of it. I am very new at this, but I think the others are right in that doing tests, searching for stuff, etc., doesn't really work. The important thing is figuring out what your boundaries are and holding firm to those. I finally told AH that I refused to ride in the car with him when he was slurring his speech and swerving--he could keep denying a drug problem if he wanted, but I at least had to keep myself safe. I couldn't "prove" he had them, but I could at least refuse to put up with certain behavior. One thing is that you should be aware that just because your spouse gets something from a doctor, it does not mean that they should be taking it! My AH's addiction started with pain pills for a broken leg. Plus, as others said, there are all kinds of addictions--gambling, porn, etc. Ambien is not a good long-term solution to insomnia, although doctors are happy to give it out. I've had lifetime insomnia, and there are some safer options. I take a sedating antidepressant, and it is not addicting. My suggestion would be to keep hanging out on this forum, there is some great advice here. I find that I am in a very difficult recovery--trying to recovery from codependency. Not easy!