I totally agree!! It is a grieving process of sorts. No, nobody died but they did, in a way. An addicts recovery is as selfish as the addict using and you feel screwed and betrayed either way. You've been hurt, stolen from, abandoned, lied to....your hopes and dreams have been slowly dying thanks to the addict. One day, you will have hopes and dreams again and it won't be as scary as it is right now.:praying