I don't understand it.... he isn't showing signs of any physical problems. I do notice some cognitive impairment, memory loss, short temper, lack of focus, etc. He has no intention of quiting, he says he's gonna be the best A he can be. I accept that I have no control and I am trying to work on me. I've been to some AA and Alanon meetings, and honestly I get more out of the AA meetings. I do however, really like this site. Even if I don't post alot, I am around.