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A good question but I'm afraid IMHO and experience there is no answer.....
My father died from this disease, My 3 brothers have been drinking since they were about 13 years of age-2 in denial and 1 that was bleeding from his liver and was told to stop who kept going for 4 more years and is still alive in REHAB again!
I really feel that this disease can take over our own lives if we allow it too-This is why I made a choice for myself to attend counseling, Al-Anon and SR!
It was stated above by daises
At my first AlAnon meeting I heard the phrase "Nothing Changes if Nothing Changes". It has made a huge difference to me. No more going around and around on the merry-go-round. It was time for me to get off and start putting down boundaries. I suggest that you do the same - do it for YOUR sake and for your children.
With this said .......why not give counseling or Al-Anon said? It has helped me and continues to help me everyday to live a more calm peaceful life for
ME!