Welcome Fierce
JT hit on the nail
The key is taking care of you. Getting help and the support of new friends (Al Anon maybe) that know what you are talking about and you feel free to talk to without being judged. You can not control what he does.
So with that I just want to say I'm glad that you found us & keep posting-check out some of the stickys at the top of the forums. Please keep posting!