Originally Posted by
Ann 
Some of us may have family members who have unresolved codependency issues. Family members may be addicted to misery, pain, suffering, martyrdom, and victimization. We may have family members who have unresolved abuse issues or unresolved family of origin issues.
We are free now, free to take care of ourselves with family members. Our freedom starts when we stop denying then issues, and politely, but assertively, hand their stuff back to them - where it belongs - and deal with our own issues.
I love this reading, but struggle with it as it applies to the issues of my codieness vs. dealing with my aging parents. At what point is it not a codie issue, but rather stepping in (like many children do) when aging / ailing parents obviously need help, but are in denial. One of them has alzheimers and is not 'mentally capable' of making 'any' decisions. The other one makes a mule look agreeable by comparison. Martyrdom, misery and pain...yup, that's them!
