We may be like our family. We may love our family. But we are separate human beings with individual rights and issues. One of our primary rights is to begin feeling better and recovering, whether or not others in the family choose to do the same.
We do not have to feel guilty about finding happiness and a life that works. And we do not have to take on our family's issues as our own to be loyal and to show we love them.
I am so grateful that I have been able to detach with love from my son's addiction. Walking into hell with him just took us both to a dark scary place, but by the grace of God and recovery I was able to fight my way back to the light and can only hope that one day he will see this same light and find his way back too.
Each day I say a prayer asking God to take care of my son, then I live my day in faith that He will.
Hugs