Originally Posted by
hope2bhappy 
.......try to remember that relapse is a symptom of the disease.
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Hi, and welcome to SR! Its a great place and I'm sure you'll find lots of wisdom here.
I am an alcoholic (sober in AA) as well as a codependent (in AlAnon). As a double winner i often used to tell myself that relapse was a part of the disease.
Now i've come to believe that that is similar to the logic that "crashing my car is just part of driving".
It doesn't always have to be the case. Sobriety is a gift and a choice. I pray that your husband wants it totally and goes for it.
For you, meanwhile, please take good care of your needs and be gentle with yourself. Its very stressful going through relapses in this disease, so, pay good attention to YOU.
We are here for you any time. Keep posting!