Your story sounds so much like mine....I think they all pretty much sound alike.....Such a great guy when "sober"
I really dont have much advice....Like I said I am in a VERY similiar situation. I have 4 little ones, am going to school full-time and he is an "angel" when he is sober.....So helpful, loving, attentive.....Gosh I really feel for you...I can count on one hand how many times I have left the children in his care and came home to find he had been drinking. Such a gut-wrenching disappointment. I finally had to make sure I got a babysitter for EVERYTIME I wasnt going to be there. It was difficult because IF he was sober I knew he could be a great father.. the whole issue was IF... my AB can not control it. And I could not take a risk on my children.
I will finish my post later.. he is right behind me