A wise man once told me that the best thing he ever did was "let her drink" while he went on about his life. You see soon she started to see that her drinking was not having a effect on him, but was killing her. She ended up getting the help she needed and they have been married well over 20 years. I guess his point is worrie about yourself and don't let them get in your way. I have no idea if I made any sense. I guess I'm just saying move forward. What will be will be.
Do you love her? Do you want to stay married? Does she?
My husband made the choice to leave. I would have tried to save my marriage, but my HP had differnt plans for me.
Good luck I hope you get some answers here.